Generally domestic violence is a learned behavior. Often the cycle needs to be broken by a strong willed individual. Whether the abuser seeks out help or the victims get away from regularly happening violent acts, it can be a difficult thing to overcome. Very few people can admit they have a problem, and fewer yet humble themselves to ask for help. No matter the situation, it usually always take support from loved ones to seek help on both sides.
Dyer and Libby Attorneys at Law would like to offer advice and tips on how to deal with a potentially violent outburst, and a few additional tips for victims of domestic violence and abuse.
– Personal space needs to be respected. Especially in heated debates, people naturally get more anxious and on edge when their personal space is encroached on. In some folks, when their anxiety is high and they are feeling in anyway threatened, their fight or flight syndrome kicks in, and on a naturally violent person, fight is generally the path they take. To avoid escalating into a fight, keep arms length distance away. By so doing, not only can the violent individual be less likely to strike, in the event they do, you are out of their reach and have a moment to respond and better defend yourself.
– If you are in a situation where someone that seems prone to violence is in need of medical attention start by explaining to the person what you are doing before you approach. Should they decline, work at bringing their anxiety down first. If necessary, allow someone with a stronger rapport conduct the procedure.
– Body language is equally important. Avoid eye to eye and toe to toe positioning, this is most likely interpreted as a challenge. Simply standing in non-aggressive poses can be a determining factor if an agitated or anxious individual erupts.
– Be a supportive ear peace. Do not pass judgment and be more empathetic. Even when you may not agree as to what made the person agitated and angry, it is still be best to be understanding and supportive. Avoid any provoking tones or words.
– React indifferently to challenging questions. Ignoring or redirecting the fueled questions can hinder any violence. Keep a calm voice and try changing the subject.
Tips if You Have Been the Victim of Domestic Violence and Abuse
– Recognize the signs. Verbal abuse is an indicator that domestic violence could follow.
– If you have been victimized, always seek medical attention. You don’t have to disclose any information if you do not wish to, but medical help is important. Keep a journal of the domestic abuse in the event your attacker refuses help and you decide to leave.
– Admit to yourself you are not to blame, even if the abuser makes you feel that you are at fault. No one deserves abuse.
– If there are children in the home, remember what is best for them. Not only could they be a potential victim, but abuse is also learned. End the cycle and do what you need to do to keep them safe.
– Confide in a trusted family member or friend. In an emergency situation, a trusted ally who knows of the circumstances can provide assistance in a multitude of ways.
– Solicit help from someone you can trust to escape the abuser.
Tips for the Defendant Who Has Been Accused of Domestic Violence and Abuse
– For those who legitimately want help from inflicting pain on loved ones, counseling is the answer. It has proven to rehabilitate those who want to change.
– Call Dyer and Libby Attorney at Law for representation should you find yourself needing legal defense.